Hope deferred makes the heart sick, but a longing fulfilled is a tree of life.  Proverbs 13:12

Friday, October 24, 2008

The Meaning of My Daughter's Name and Biding My Time

First, I have to share the coolest thing.  Yesterday, after an exhaustive search, I finally tracked down the meaning of my daughter's name.  I chose to keep the name she was given in Ethiopia but it isn't a common name so it took a little sleuthing.  I am awestruck at how perfect her name is.  Her name, yet to be divulged on the blog as to protect her while I am in the court process, means to be connected/joined by love.  How incredible is that?  I feel so blessed with this sign.  Her middle name, a derivative of my mother's first name which means nourishing, is a traditional Ethiopian name meaning diamond.   
Last night I couldn't sleep and I was restless.  At about two a.m. I decided to pull out all of the purchases I've been putting in my baby girl's closet that I'll take as donations to Hannah's Hope in Addis.  Each time I see things on sale that the orphanage can use, I pick up a few extras.  Little Old Navy socks ($.89/pr), toothpaste, toothbrushes, cute little sweatpants (end of season sale $2), bibs at IKEA (7 for $2), diapers.  Whatever I see, I buy.  Gathering these items in small numbers, I wasn't really paying attention to how much I was collecting (or spending).  That was until last night.  Here are a few photos before I started to come up with a packing plan.
Now you may think that it looks like I went a bit crazy with pajamas but hear me out.  Last winter/early spring when all of this was but a hazy futuristic dream and I had not yet bought my current house (that's key because now I am saving and freaking out about every penny), I started keeping my eye out for sales.  I found that pajamas are marked down significantly in the early spring.  I'd say "Who knew?" but you savvy moms out there are probably already clear on these things.  Me?  Not so much.  The pjs for the older kids were such fun to buy because I kept reading stories by other families from my agency who were traveling and sharing the needs at Hannah's Hope.  And thus it began.  The retail therapy for children I don't know yet--or maybe even one of your children out there.  

Last night I started to consider what to do with all of this stuff and still be able to pack my own bags.  I started packing, rolling, vacuum packing, folding, stuffing and -voila- I fit most everything in three large duffel bags and one medium one.  I think from the picture below, however, I may need one more bag.  Oh my goodness--I have to stop buying!  How fun it will be to share all of these treasures, though, when the time comes to travel.  For all of you on the wait list, at least know your waiting children will have some pjs while at HH!

As a side note, the shoes are from my sister, Suzie.  She has four children who grow like weeds and she sent over bags of things for me to go through--including brand new items her big babies never wore.  I kept the things that I thought my baby girl will use and piled up the other things.  Then I bagged the shoes that are in great shape--they really look barely worn--to take with me. 

Also, my friend Susie had a little boy early summer.  Actually, her son was due on the very day my little one was born and for her entire pregnancy we joked that we were pregnant together.  I digress.  Susie got some presents at her shower for little girls (she and her husband didn't share the gender) and some newborn clothes that her son never wore because he, too, is a big boy much like my nieces an nephews.  So all of those new clothes went into the donation bags!

What does all this mean?  I am almost packed and ready to go.  Of course I have to wait for the Ethiopian courts to agree.  I feel like I have my bag packed for the hospital and now I am just waiting to go into labor.  Of course in this case, labor will be at least two weeks (travel planning) and 19 hours (the flight to Addis)!

6 comments:

Our journey said...

Wow, Melissa that is amazing! What a blessing you will bring to Hannah's Hope. I have been doing a little retail therapy too, although I don't near as many goodies as you do!

Eryn said...

That is quite a stash!

I'm glad you got a good laugh at my silly pics...I was laughing so hard I had tears in my eyes...

By the way, nice to meet you, in that cyberspace kind of way! Congrats on your referral...can't wait to see that little one!

emily said...

Thank you for the prayers! It is such a blessing you are able to take so much to HH.

You are sitting in one of my very favorite spots in your header pic. :)

Shauna said...

That is awesome... I can't wait to do a little retail therapy of my own...

Our Princess said...

Ahh!!! So exciting--feels like just yesterday I was doing the same thing! You'll be there in no time & Almaz will be so excited to see all the goodies! Praying for you while you wait! P.S.--Love the name stuff, too! Way cool!

A Team said...

Hey Melissa..

My lens is a 28-105 Canon with a 3.5-4.5f... it's not even as great as you can get. The lower number of appeture the more you'll get that blut. That is my nicest lens though and it pretty much LIVES on my camera. I see no need to change it out. There are better lenses out there but they are EXPENSIVE. The lower the f (appeture) the more expensive the lens.
Hope that helps!
:-)
Tracie

So...what's next?

Below is an overview of an Ethiopian adoption process from the time my agency receives adoptive parents' completed dossier and home study.

Agency Sends Dossier for Authentication and Translation Check!
Agency will forward adoptive parents’ dossier to the U.S. State Department and the Ethiopian Embassy for authentication. Once processed, the agency will forward the dossier to our staff in Ethiopia where it is translated

Referral Process Check!
Once the dossier is in Ethiopia, adoptive parents can wait six to eight months for a referral of a child. Once referred, the agency will send the adoptive parents referral photos, medical information and the child’s background information, including any known family history. Upon acceptance of referral, the agency's foreign staff will submit adoptive parents’ dossier, with the referred child’s documentation to the Ministry of Women’s Affairs (MOWA).

Ministry of Women’s Affairs (MOWA) Reviews Documentation Check!
MOWA is the branch of the Ethiopian government that reviews all documentation submitted by the adoptive parents and on behalf of the referred child recommends the adoption to be finalized to the Federal Court of Addis Ababa.

Federal Court Date November 11, 2008 Check!
Once MOWA recommends the adoption to be finalized, a court appointment is scheduled. At this appointment, the judge can either finalize the adoption or ask for further documentation and set another court date. Once the adoption is finalized, the court decree, new birth certificate and passport are issued, and the adoptive parents can travel.

Travel December 6, 2008 - December 11, 2008
Adoptive parents should be ready to travel within two to four months after accepting a referral. One parent is required to travel and the in-country stay in Ethiopia is five to seven days. During this time, adoptive parents will complete the U.S. Embassy Immigration appointment for the adopted child, which is necessary to bring the child to the United States. The agency's in-country staff will accompany each family throughout their entire stay in Ethiopia.

Post-Adoption- Until the child turns 18 years old In Process
In Ethiopia, an adoption is finalized before entrance into the United States. Upon arrival, post-adoption reports are due at three, six, and 12 months on the anniversary of the U.S. Embassy appointment date. After the first year, family authored self reports are due every year until the child reaches 18 years of age.