Hope deferred makes the heart sick, but a longing fulfilled is a tree of life.  Proverbs 13:12

Monday, May 25, 2009

Happy First Birthday My Sweet Girl!


One year ago, on this day, my daughter was born.   My beautiful, happy, smiling angel was brought into this world without a family.  God blessed me the moment He placed her in my care; for I was growing her in my heart all those months before.  On this day, one year ago, Sitina became my family and I became hers.  Although it was but a few months after her birth I learned of her, I am certain we were matched long before the moment she was born.  I am forever grateful for the trust I have been granted and the love I have been given.  

Every day is a better day with Sitina in it.  Every day is without sadness or fear or work stress or ill thoughts.  Everyday has become a new day, a new life, a new outlook.  I am certain with Sitina in it; it is a world of hope, of love, of forgiveness and understanding.  I am so blessed to be living in this world, one world, with Sitina.

In honor of Sitina's twelve months of life, I present twelve things I absolutely LOVE about my daughter.  

To Sitina on your first birthday...
  1. Your presence is a present.  Everyone who catches your gaze is forever changed. 
  2. Your smile is infectious.  For just a second of a stranger's life, you force a smile.  Not a day has passed where this has not been true.
  3.  I love the way you put your hands on my cheeks and pull me in for a kiss. Sometimes just one; other times kiss after kiss after kiss.  I can let you kiss me all day!
  4. You wave hello and goodbye with the brightest of smiles.  I even think I hear you trying to pop out a "Hi."
  5. I love the way you love your grandparents, Papa and GeGe.  They melt at the sight of you and you give them all the love and affection a grandparent could want.
  6. You have the most beautiful, soft, smooth skin.  Your legs are so yummy I could eat them! 
  7. You love your cousins and they absolutely adore you!  You are happy around them, playing with them, loving on them.  It is a mutual admiration society!
  8. I love the way you hold very tight to my shirt when you want to stay close.  Both hands if you don't want to leave me at all.
  9. I love that we communicate and understand each other so easily.  You speak to me with your eyes and I love that you allow me to read them.
  10. I love your playfulness in the bath.  Splashing, playing, singing about the rubber duckie.
  11. I love that you love music so much that you even love when I sing.  Potentially you may be the only person in the world who loves my voice and I love you for that unconditional (and gracious) appreciation.  
  12. I love that we are only at the beginning of our journey.  
Happy Birthday to You!  For it is on this anniversary of your birth, that I thank God for your every gurgle, smile, kiss, peek-a-boo, Baby Beluga song, and hug.  In your words baby girl, "Muah!"  I am blowing you a kiss.

7 comments:

Jana said...

She is PERFECT!

Meade family adoption said...

Spoken perfectly Melissa. How beautiful!!!!

Unknown said...

You know how to make every mom cry, as we all think back to those days with our children who are now BIG kids. I miss that stage and every other stage in between. Then, we give them their wings to fly on their own but as I am often reminded our job is never really done--it just evolves.

Jocelyn Zarr '86 said...

What a first birthday!!! Thank you! So True; Sitina has forever changed us- that is for sure! I love your number 12. It is so thrilling that it IS only just the beginning, what a wonderful thought that your little family will just keep on truckin' each day full of love and fun!! Love Rocks!

Three2Five said...

Happy Birthday to your precious baby girl. I know Liam is missin her! Hopefully this summer holds possibilities of our reunion!

Brian and Autumn said...

Happy Birthday Sitina, you are precious!

A Team said...

SO VERY VERY SWEET

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So...what's next?

Below is an overview of an Ethiopian adoption process from the time my agency receives adoptive parents' completed dossier and home study.

Agency Sends Dossier for Authentication and Translation Check!
Agency will forward adoptive parents’ dossier to the U.S. State Department and the Ethiopian Embassy for authentication. Once processed, the agency will forward the dossier to our staff in Ethiopia where it is translated

Referral Process Check!
Once the dossier is in Ethiopia, adoptive parents can wait six to eight months for a referral of a child. Once referred, the agency will send the adoptive parents referral photos, medical information and the child’s background information, including any known family history. Upon acceptance of referral, the agency's foreign staff will submit adoptive parents’ dossier, with the referred child’s documentation to the Ministry of Women’s Affairs (MOWA).

Ministry of Women’s Affairs (MOWA) Reviews Documentation Check!
MOWA is the branch of the Ethiopian government that reviews all documentation submitted by the adoptive parents and on behalf of the referred child recommends the adoption to be finalized to the Federal Court of Addis Ababa.

Federal Court Date November 11, 2008 Check!
Once MOWA recommends the adoption to be finalized, a court appointment is scheduled. At this appointment, the judge can either finalize the adoption or ask for further documentation and set another court date. Once the adoption is finalized, the court decree, new birth certificate and passport are issued, and the adoptive parents can travel.

Travel December 6, 2008 - December 11, 2008
Adoptive parents should be ready to travel within two to four months after accepting a referral. One parent is required to travel and the in-country stay in Ethiopia is five to seven days. During this time, adoptive parents will complete the U.S. Embassy Immigration appointment for the adopted child, which is necessary to bring the child to the United States. The agency's in-country staff will accompany each family throughout their entire stay in Ethiopia.

Post-Adoption- Until the child turns 18 years old In Process
In Ethiopia, an adoption is finalized before entrance into the United States. Upon arrival, post-adoption reports are due at three, six, and 12 months on the anniversary of the U.S. Embassy appointment date. After the first year, family authored self reports are due every year until the child reaches 18 years of age.