Hope deferred makes the heart sick, but a longing fulfilled is a tree of life.  Proverbs 13:12

Wednesday, March 25, 2009

Snow, Sun, St. Patrick's Day and Back to the Daily Grind

I returned to work on the ninth of March and Sitina and I are both adjusting.  She to daycare; I to work.  We've been blessed with a wonderful care provider and that makes the whole process much easier.  The first week went well--day two better than one; day three better than two an so on.  Last week, only the second Monday, I cried all the way to work.  I wish I could explain it but it is one of those things I am unable to articulate.  I miss her when I am at work; I miss her when she is taking a nap in the same room.  I miss her when my mother feeds her at the same table I am sitting.  I guess I am just smitten.  It's not such a bad way to be.  The moment she first touched my face, every wall that ever existed between me and my world's challenges crumbled.  I love that little soul with every piece of my being.  I can't imagine loving her one little bit more; but every day I do.  If this is what everything in my life has led up to, if this is ultimately my purpose in life, I can say with absolute certainty, loving Sitina is worth every lesson, experience, and moment.  Each and every one.

Sitina experienced her first real measurable snow on March 1st. Pure joy.  She LOVED it--the texture, the taste, the temperature. Next year I will be sure to get her a full on snowsuit to run and play and frolic. We brought the snow inside so she could explore.  She had a ball trying to figure out why the snow was disappearing.  She is quite the observer!

A few days later the snow was melted and Sitina was back to lounging about on the patio.  She loves the sun--it must go back to her days at Hannah's Hope and the Vitamin D morning lounge time in the moses baskets.  Any chance she has to catch some rays, she takes full advantage!

Another fun thing to celebrate about my ten month old daughter (as of today) is her gorgeous, long, soft and silky hair!  She has so much hair.  Her grandfather, Papa, keeps asking how one little girl could grow that much hair in just a few months.  We lovingly refer to her as junior (as in Don King) with a little less gray.  Here is a shot of her with her hair combed out.  It is so beautiful--I am in awe of her curly locks.

My niece, Eve turned one the day before my mother's birthday the first week of March.  Both are below with Sitina and Papa.  For my mother's big day I finally finished a photo book of our trip to Ethiopia.  I want to make one for Sitina to have, I just need another few hours in the day.  Eve's birthday was celebrated at my sister's house with friends and delish food!  My sister can throw a fabulous fête...

And, finally, St. Sitina's very first St. Patrick's Day!  I am not exactly sure how much fun she had but my neighborhood friends had a corned beef and cabbage dinner and the little kiddos in the neighborhood had a grand time dressing up their favorite leprechaun.  If you look closely below, you can catch a glimpse of her TWO bottom (razor sharp) teeth.  For the record, number three--top right--poked through two nights ago.  

That's it.  The update.  I love my moments in time with my daughter. When we are apart, I spend the time thinking about how long it will be until I see her.  People continue to joke with me and say, "Just you wait until..."  fill in the blank.  I think I am just fine waiting.  I can wait and wait and wait and wait.  Because right now, there is nothing I'd rather do than snuggle in and read a book or sing a song with my sweet Sitina

6 comments:

Aubrey said...

She's so precious Melissa! I loved your post!

Jocie Z ROCK said...

great update, i just loved reading this one and seeing all the pics! How cute are E and S together! loved that shot too! love j

Shauna said...

I love this post. And again, I can't believe how unbelievable sweet and beautiful your daughter is...

Pamela said...

For some reason, I started to cry when I read this post. Okay, I know why...same reason you cried on the way to work last week. I seem to be on the verge of tears all the time lately. Got a few snaps of Tulla Belle last Thursday and balled - gut wrenching sobs - as I looked at them. First pics I've received in 6 months. Can't wait til she gets home and can play with Sitina!

Three2Five said...

Melissa how sweet and I miss you guys! Tell your mom I miss her to! Seriously...She was my mom a world away from my Mom. I didn't think Sitina could get more beautiful and yet she has...
Did I mention I miss you guys?
Lots of love

Meade family adoption said...

Oh Melissa, you made me cry this morning. Sitina is so very beautiful, and I love the hair too!!!!!! You must have so much fun putting it up into pretty piggies. I love ya girl, and miss you all so very much.

So...what's next?

Below is an overview of an Ethiopian adoption process from the time my agency receives adoptive parents' completed dossier and home study.

Agency Sends Dossier for Authentication and Translation Check!
Agency will forward adoptive parents’ dossier to the U.S. State Department and the Ethiopian Embassy for authentication. Once processed, the agency will forward the dossier to our staff in Ethiopia where it is translated

Referral Process Check!
Once the dossier is in Ethiopia, adoptive parents can wait six to eight months for a referral of a child. Once referred, the agency will send the adoptive parents referral photos, medical information and the child’s background information, including any known family history. Upon acceptance of referral, the agency's foreign staff will submit adoptive parents’ dossier, with the referred child’s documentation to the Ministry of Women’s Affairs (MOWA).

Ministry of Women’s Affairs (MOWA) Reviews Documentation Check!
MOWA is the branch of the Ethiopian government that reviews all documentation submitted by the adoptive parents and on behalf of the referred child recommends the adoption to be finalized to the Federal Court of Addis Ababa.

Federal Court Date November 11, 2008 Check!
Once MOWA recommends the adoption to be finalized, a court appointment is scheduled. At this appointment, the judge can either finalize the adoption or ask for further documentation and set another court date. Once the adoption is finalized, the court decree, new birth certificate and passport are issued, and the adoptive parents can travel.

Travel December 6, 2008 - December 11, 2008
Adoptive parents should be ready to travel within two to four months after accepting a referral. One parent is required to travel and the in-country stay in Ethiopia is five to seven days. During this time, adoptive parents will complete the U.S. Embassy Immigration appointment for the adopted child, which is necessary to bring the child to the United States. The agency's in-country staff will accompany each family throughout their entire stay in Ethiopia.

Post-Adoption- Until the child turns 18 years old In Process
In Ethiopia, an adoption is finalized before entrance into the United States. Upon arrival, post-adoption reports are due at three, six, and 12 months on the anniversary of the U.S. Embassy appointment date. After the first year, family authored self reports are due every year until the child reaches 18 years of age.